Comments for Spiritual Stepmom https://spiritualstepmom.com Peace + Purpose in the Chaos of Blended Family Life Thu, 25 Mar 2021 12:05:35 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.0 Comment on Six “Quick-Fixes” For An Instantly Better Marriage by Sophie Fourie https://spiritualstepmom.com/2019/04/04/six-quick-fixes-for-an-instantly-better-marriage/#comment-131 Thu, 25 Mar 2021 12:05:35 +0000 https://spiritualstepmom.com/?p=474#comment-131 Reading your blogs has been life changing for me. Its so deeply refreshing to hear someone speak truthfully about these matter.

]]> Comment on A Letter to Future Stepmoms by Fee https://spiritualstepmom.com/2020/05/15/a-letter-to-future-stepmoms/#comment-128 Fri, 19 Mar 2021 22:14:42 +0000 https://spiritualstepmom.com/?p=510#comment-128 Reading this almost brought tears to my eyes. I’ve been a step mom for one and a half years and I’m just now experiencing the things mentioned here. I entered this (stepparenthood) with rose colored glasses. My husband works crazy hours and many times he’s gone before the kids wake up and gets back after they’ve gone to sleep. I work from home so I’m the one reminding my step son (10) and daughter (9) to do chores, bathe, helping with homeschooling etc. We recently found out that his mom and siblings at his moms house was doing the school work for him. So me getting him to do it on his own was arduous. He recently told his dad he doesn’t like coming to see him (and me; me mostly) because he feels like an outsider, I’m mean, and I treat my daughter differently. When asked to describe a scenario when this sort of stuff happened, he couldn’t. I had a not so nice step dad growing up so fairness between the two children (my daughter and step son) has always been at the forefront. We had a talk, the three of us and I promised to be more mindful of how I explain homework. I admit I can be firm. I can’t see any other reason for him to say this except him being uncomfortable with school work. But when it was time to visit dad again, he said he didn’t want to. My emotions are all over the place. Hurt, anger, confusion. I feel like now his mom has ammo for whatever, my husband will wonder what really goes on. What parent can rightly tell a father, “don’t believe what your child is saying.” I suggested professional help with this. I’m not sure how to react to this or around him now.

]]> Comment on A Letter to Future Stepmoms by Caitlin https://spiritualstepmom.com/2020/05/15/a-letter-to-future-stepmoms/#comment-125 Mon, 22 Feb 2021 05:01:08 +0000 https://spiritualstepmom.com/?p=510#comment-125 😭😭 Only I haven't quite gotten to the new me part. Just had my first baby (my husband's second) and I am slowly realizing more and more things that don't be the way I want (the way I strongly believe in!) for our family, for my daughter. So I am in the grieving. I love my family, but I am struggling so hard to be happy. I have so, so much anger, all the time, and I don't know what to do with it. Just knowing I'm not alone, that other stepmoms feel these things....makes a big difference. But finding the way forward in peace and not making everyone around me miserable is proving so difficult. Thank you for sharing honestly. You've given me a little hope tonight.]]> I swear I wrote this myself. 😭😭😭 Only I haven’t quite gotten to the new me part. Just had my first baby (my husband’s second) and I am slowly realizing more and more things that don’t be the way I want (the way I strongly believe in!) for our family, for my daughter. So I am in the grieving. I love my family, but I am struggling so hard to be happy. I have so, so much anger, all the time, and I don’t know what to do with it. Just knowing I’m not alone, that other stepmoms feel these things….makes a big difference. But finding the way forward in peace and not making everyone around me miserable is proving so difficult. Thank you for sharing honestly. You’ve given me a little hope tonight.

]]> Comment on 5 Things Every Remarried Dad Needs to Know by Amy https://spiritualstepmom.com/2020/12/15/5-things-every-remarried-dad-needs-to-know/#comment-78 Thu, 17 Dec 2020 05:03:34 +0000 https://spiritualstepmom.com/?p=585#comment-78 Thank you, this is very insightful. Much appreciated for taking the time to write this. Definitely shared!

]]> Comment on 5 Things Every Remarried Dad Needs to Know by Batsheva Arboleda https://spiritualstepmom.com/2020/12/15/5-things-every-remarried-dad-needs-to-know/#comment-77 Wed, 16 Dec 2020 01:59:11 +0000 https://spiritualstepmom.com/?p=585#comment-77 Keep us the great work dad! It shows a lot of internal work on your end and this is a real inspiration for the rest of us.
I sent this to my husband!

]]> Comment on A Letter to Future Stepmoms by admin https://spiritualstepmom.com/2020/05/15/a-letter-to-future-stepmoms/#comment-57 Fri, 04 Sep 2020 21:36:44 +0000 https://spiritualstepmom.com/?p=510#comment-57 In reply to RoseAnn.

Sweet friend, PLEASE know that you will not always feel like this. You need to believe in the “new me” concept because we all are made in God’s image and your brain can do exactly what my brain can do. That means if I can do this, than YOU can do this. I HIGHLY recommend doing some inner child work. There are reasons that it hurts so bad and it’s not all about what’s happening in the “now.” If you can heal YOU, then everything else will fall into place. I PROMISE!!! Please smile and know that like all things in life…THIS TOO SHALL PASS!

]]> Comment on A Letter to Future Stepmoms by RoseAnn https://spiritualstepmom.com/2020/05/15/a-letter-to-future-stepmoms/#comment-56 Wed, 02 Sep 2020 22:05:13 +0000 https://spiritualstepmom.com/?p=510#comment-56 In reply to admin.

Still experiencing this every day. Reading it brought tears to my eyes… I dont believe in the new me concept 🙁

I know how hard you have worked to make your stepchild feel like they really belong with you and your family. And it’s going to break your heart the day it hits you that until now, you never even realized that you have been the outsider all along and no one is going to work as hard as you did to make you feel like you belong in the family you sacrificed everything to be a part of. No, you’ve never known the pain of feeling even more alone and isolated when surrounded by members of your own family. But you will.

]]> Comment on A Letter to Future Stepmoms by admin https://spiritualstepmom.com/2020/05/15/a-letter-to-future-stepmoms/#comment-55 Sun, 23 Aug 2020 02:27:26 +0000 https://spiritualstepmom.com/?p=510#comment-55 ]]> In reply to Diana.

I will try condense this as well as I can! Bear with me! I would say the biggest thing for me was giving up completely on trying to change my circumstances or the people involved and focusing 100% on me and my issues. For the first time ever I began to take absolute responsibility for the things wrong with me and began healing slowly from my past hurts, understanding that they were driving most of the negativity I was experiencing as a stepmom. A great place to start with that journey is researching inner child healing or self healing. There are a lot of really awesome people on social media that break it down for everyone to easily understand. The Holistic Psychologist is my favorite and her material was a HUGE part of my healing. But believe me when I say that I still struggle and it’s still hard, I just don’t stay stuck in it. It takes up such a small space in my mind now where it used to consume me at times. Please be encouraged when I say that time alone does so much healing!
All of that being said, commit to working on you and you will begin to see that it’s not as hard as it “feels.” With that and the healing power of time, you will get to where you want to be, I promise. Trust the process! Hope this helps 😊

]]> Comment on A Letter to Future Stepmoms by Diana https://spiritualstepmom.com/2020/05/15/a-letter-to-future-stepmoms/#comment-54 Thu, 13 Aug 2020 03:00:49 +0000 https://spiritualstepmom.com/?p=510#comment-54 May I ask, how did you go about creating your new you? How did you build that inner strength for all of that not to bother you? I don’t know where to start. How did you start? I have been married for two years, but have been in a relationship with my him for 7 years and it’s still so hard.

]]> Comment on A Letter to Future Stepmoms by admin https://spiritualstepmom.com/2020/05/15/a-letter-to-future-stepmoms/#comment-53 Mon, 03 Aug 2020 19:00:23 +0000 https://spiritualstepmom.com/?p=510#comment-53 So sorry if you tried to leave a comment and couldn’t find it! I had my comments turned off and didn’t know it! Thank you!!!

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