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There’s Still Hope For This Stepmom
A few weeks ago, my family threw a Tacky Christmas Disco Party. Yeah I know, that sounds really strange, right? Well, what can I say? We have a crazy love for disco music and holidays. And honestly, we are just always looking for an excuse to get together and make some fun memories. As I made my way to the dance floor, covered in costume-clad relatives and flashing multi-color lights, I couldn’t help but chuckle with pure delight at all of the tackiness, hilarious dance moves and smiling faces. So I jumped in. And we danced. Together. All of us. And we laughed our butts off when someone slipped “Baby…
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Happy Birthday To Me
Yesterday was my birthday. I woke up to breakfast in bed, my favorite blueberry muffin from the bakery down the road, compliments of my sweet husband. Oh and some cereal quite literally crushed in the bed next to me, compliments of my three year old. After opening a gift from my husband, my sisters and I went and got our nails done and then popped in to the store next door to do a little Christmas shopping. After that, we headed to the the bakery to grab a bite to eat before heading back to our fams. Before I even got my food, I was told some unexpected, horrible news.…
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Sometimes You Just Gotta Ride It Out
Well, some of you may have noticed I’ve been MIA for a couple of months now and some of you probably didn’t notice at all (and I don’t blame you a bit)! Either way, I’m not going to lie….its just been a really rough past 8 weeks. Of course I was SO grateful and excited to find out we were pregnant in September, but I had obviously forgotten just how INCREDIBLY HARD growing a baby is!!!! I mean, seriously. There were (and still are here and there) days I thought I just couldn’t make it another hour. Between being sick, exhausted and chasing a toddler, my first trimester nearly broke…
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This is My Story
Or at least the first three years of it. In honor of my husband and I’s fourth anniversary coming up next week, I decided to share with y’all the post I made on social media last year for our third anniversary. This post is special to me because it was the very first time I got the guts to share the intimate details of my life as a new wife, mother and stepmom in a blended family. It is even more special to me because of all of the people that reached out to tell me how much my post meant to them and how much it encouraged them. People…
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What’s Wrong With Me?!
As much as I love when readers reach out to tell me how much something I wrote meant to them and as flattering as it may be when people act like I’m some stellar stepmom who has it all figured out, there’s always a part of me that feels a little uncomfortable and I am compelled to respond with something like, “Thank you BUT please know that I absolutely do NOT have it all together.” Y’all, the truth is I’m just a big hypocrite. There. The secret’s out. Not that any of you who actually know me haven’t already figured this out. The thing is, just because I have struggled…
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11 Things Your Husband Wants You to Know But Doesn’t Know How to Tell You
Ok, Stepmoms! This is how a remarried dad really feels. And this is straight from the horse’s mouth! 1. I wanted the perfect family just as much as you did. When we got married, I thought you were the answer to all of my problems and that you being in our lives would magically fix everything. I am just as heartbroken and disappointed as you are when things aren’t going the way we hoped they would. 2. The reason I get so upset when you complain about my “baggage” is because all I ever wanted was to give you the the perfect life. I wanted you to have everything you ever…
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10 Surprising Perks of Being a Stepmom
Any stepmom will tell you that blended family life is no walk in the park! But there’s no doubt that behind every cloud is a silver lining and stepmomhood is no exception. Here are some reasons why I can honestly say I am grateful for my experiences as a stepmom, the good AND the bad! You truly appreciate every single second of alone time with your husband. As a stepmom, you learn very early on to not take quality time with your man for granted. What may be just another weekend for a regular wife feels like a romantic mini-vaca for a stepmom when the kids are away. Your…
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I Act Like My Stepkid’s Mom and Here’s Why
A couple of months ago, I ran into a friend I hadn’t seen in a long time and although I was getting out of my car as she was getting into hers, I KNEW God was prompting me to spend time with her. She mentioned going to lunch so I asked her if she wanted to go grab something to eat and jumped right back in the driver’s seat. Turns out, we had SO much to catch up on and I was so grateful for the chance to hear about everything going on in her life. She asked how things were going with my stepdaughter and if I’m being honest…
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Judge THIS!
First, let me just go ahead and say that never in my LIFE have I been judged as much as I have since becoming a stepmom. And I’m not talking about judgment from “the world” or even my “enemies,” although I’m sure there’s no shortage there either. I am talking about being judged, even harshly sometimes, by the very people I’m closest to in this world, my own friends and family. My favorite Stepmom Shaming Repertoire includes the all too famous “you knew what you were getting yourself into when you said yes,” “I can not BELIEVE anyone could feel that way about an innocent child,” and my personal favorite,…
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11 Things No One Tells You About Marrying a Man With Kids
1. Sometimes you are going to feel like an outsider in your own “family.” Even if your step kids welcome you with open arms. Even if the ex likes you. You will feel left out when your husband jokes about being a parent in a conversation with friends and when he goes to school functions without you. You will get knots in your stomach every time you sit down at the dinner table, dreading what awkward or inappropriate comment is going to come out of your stepchild’s mouth this time. You will feel insecure when they laugh about old memories, because up until now, none of them involve you and…
